They never cede their power to anyone. They autoabastecen what they need and are therefore rich in self-esteem. We know that self-esteem is the fundamental ingredient of the so-called emotional intelligence. We define emotional intelligence, such as the ability to recognize feelings, emotions and moods own and others, and also possess the sufficient ability to handle them. According to this, emotional intelligence, is the sum of the intrapersonal intelligence (which is the one that refers to the self-understanding, access to emotional, and can discriminate those emotions and behave according to them life itself), more interpersonal intelligence (which is based on the ability to sympathetically in the place of the other, and can relate harmoniously with him).

It was the Harvard Professor, Howard Gardner, who in 1983, formulated the theory of multiple intelligences, among them these last two I just mentioned. In today’s world, people are in general poor self-esteem, because the system and the dominant beliefs, has been responsible for teach us that our happiness and arrangement, they always depend on something external to us: call it beauty, money, power, success, etc. Therefore, inexorably every time we turn away more than the as I feel, to settle in the as appreciate me others. The consequence of that change, is that without realizing it, we are losing self-esteem. Returning to the subject that concerns us, ask them to patients who make a list of those people who affectionately consider important, and with whom they would like to generate a network of empathy and solidarity, which engendrase at the same time, the necessary synergies so that everyone increase their levels of self-esteem.

Basically, it’s open emotional accounts with every one of these people and start making income affective. If for example, the basketball like my son, I can give her a basketball magazine; a friend I can call to ask about his health, I greet with affection, give away smiles, etc. All this, I seek a healthy emotional accounts. If at some point, porto me wrong with someone, it is as if you would a reinstatement, but as I systematically entered in your account, I have enough credit to repair my action. Surely, we all have a former friend who have been removing our credit, since in addition to not enter into our emotional account, not stopped making refunds with their bad behavior toward us. At the end, as do banks, not gave him more credit and lost our friendship.